Hello SNOWFLAKE...

  
 Hello SNOWFLAKE...

                As provided by the civil code Article 19 “Every person must, in the exercise of his rights and in the performance of his duties, act with justice, give everyone his due, and observe honesty and good faith”.

The civil code if defined is a collection of laws which regulate private relations of members of civil society, such laws as provided determines each person’s respective rights and obligations with reference to persons, things and civil actions.

Said rights with respect to article 19 should be exercised with justice and good faith otherwise, the person injured would need redress from the other who committed a damaging act or omission against another.

The government itself, it’s representatives chosen and voted by the people, the lawmakers who create bills that would be turned into laws, are the ones responsible on legislating said bills to which as provided by the constitution the president or the chief executive will sign and after 15 days following the completion of their publication will then take effect.

There are several processes and procedures that would need to be done in order to turn a bill into law, such action needs a lot of resources, the government uses the taxes collected from the people in order to have the budget to research properly a bill before it gets discussed by our lawmakers and even before the president signs said bill or ratify it.

Resources, however, are not all just about money or budget, resources can also be time, it can be manpower and plenty of things needed just to get things going.

So why am I pointing this out?

Easy…

The Philippines right now, our government, our lawmakers and even the executive office are clearly wasting precious resources to issues not really urgent. Such waste is negatively affecting some members of the Filipino society mainly our farmers who by the way really needs help right now.

Give or take and as I have researched there are about 10 million rice farmers in the Philippines if there are 100 million Filipinos then if you look at it that 10 million is a big percentage of people who resides in this country and that’s just the farmers alone.

A production cost of palay is usually around 12 pesos per kilo and the average farmgate price of palay is about 17 pesos if you look at the math, although I’m not really good at it, give or take a farmer may earn up to 5 pesos give or take per kilo of palay sold.

Unfortunately, as I have seen in the news, some greedy wholesalers are buying farmgate palay at only 8 pesos per kilo, this act was then debunked by the great “Cynthia Villar” saying that those being sold at 8 pesos per kilo were the ones that have been severely damaged by the typhoon causing unwarranted moisture.

Our farmers unfortunately, are accepting these prices even though it is below the proper price that they should accept.

Why do they do this you ask?

Well, it’s because of three words. BASIC HUMAN NEEDS.  

Our farmers, should the great “ CYNTHIA VILLAR” would know, are people too and they have needs, as a human being a person needs to eat, he needs money for electricity, food, basic necessities and primarily money so that said farmers who by the way have families can pay the tuition fee and materials their children would need in order to get a proper education.  

Shouldn’t the government itself be the one to help these farmers, I mean, why is there no budget appropriation for that issue?

Shouldn’t the Mainstream Media focus more on this problem instead of focusing it on a non-URGENT ISSUE? I mean every people have rights. If you are a member of the LGBTQ community or whatever they are called now I have nothing against you but there are people right now dying out there of hunger and is being pummelled with debt because they need money in order to bring food at the table.

Though yes I know we have several lawmakers out there and some of them are giving concern towards said farmers issue, however, it’s not just about that. If the media also gave their focus in order to provide said the issue with a more compelling light and emphasize said problem to the people through the use of their so-called Media. Then things may move faster to resolve said issue.

A snowflake is a term to describe an entitled, whiny, sensitive person who easily gets offended or triggered, by the acts of others even if the said act was committed under good faith.  

Right now there are hundreds of snowflakes out there and because of them, a more urgent issue of the government isn’t given more emphasis.

You. Snowflake… This is your fault…

As much as I want to go further the subject of how many snowflakes there are right now…

Something more urgent should be given emphasis. There are valid classifications or distinctions given to each person. There are men, there are women. There are adults and there are children. Each and every one of them has several distinctions and classifications that are found on the other and are not found on the latter. A child compared to an adult has a limited legal capacity because of their age. The strength between men and women and their scientific classifications. And there are rich people and poor people.

Your gender wouldn’t kill you. Man, Woman whatever you are… it won’t kill you. However, if a farmer can’t bring food at the table of his family and provide basic necessities for them, then just might as well pull the trigger, because that is what you are doing.

Poverty can indeed kill, you, however, won’t die because of your gender.

A letter for the great public and elected officials of the PHILIPPINES.

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN.

When I was in high school after dismissal I used to go to the office of my mother, I used to commute every day to the place where she works and after arriving at her office I would wait for her to go home and we would go home together. I will wait for hours inside her office before her time out and since I don’t really have any money before to go to a computer shop or a café and kill time I killed time by walking around the building where she works.

My mother works at the City hall; she’s a court employee at a branch which would not be named because I don’t want to name it, as provided by the Cambridge Dictionary a city hall is a building that is used by the government of a city that usually contains city offices. Since my mother works at the city hall it’s clear that her work pertains to legal procedures inside and outside the courtroom.

Walking around the building it is not really hard to see the problems of said infrastructure, the restrooms are dirty, the plumbing needs a lot of work,  the walls of the inside and outside of the building has plenty of cracks in it, it smells weird and to shorten the explanation on how hard of an improvement it needs, the building is crap.

But don’t be angry, the point of this essay is to maybe open the eyes of our public officials that are appointed in or elected in to improve the city offices of their municipality or city. Ergo this letter:

Dear public or elected official,

If you are reading this I would like to point out certain things that may need some improvement for the betterment of the needs of our fellow Filipino people. I’m not really saying that I am better at the job that is appointed to you or you were elected in but as I am seeing right now as I use some of the government facilities in your city that you are supposed to be improving using the taxes collected from the people. Some facilities “per se” needs a lot of improvement.

Granted you don’t want our facilities to be a cesspool of sickness that would probably be noxious or in lay man’s terms Bad for the health of the people. Then maybe if you use some of that money we call taxes, again collected from the people, and not just use it for your own personal needs then maybe we can start somewhere.

There is this legal maxim that refers to a fundamental rule that is being followed by the government “ Salus Populi suprema lex esto” which means in English “ The general welfare or good salvation of the people should be the supreme law”  Seeing the current situation of the government facilities found here in the country it is sometimes questionable for me if you and some of your cohorts are indeed following the said rule. First of all, let’s start with the restrooms, why is it so dirty in every government restroom that I use, why does it stink so bad and some of the cubicles doesn’t even have a working lock in it? I mean a guy walked in on me while I was doing natures work inside a restroom cubicle to which we had a very awkward situation where while I was doing natures work he opened the cubicle door which should be presumably locked and to his surprise, I was inside and we locked eyes looking at each other where afterward, he quickly closed the cubicle door and said sorry, when asked by said man on why I didn’t lock the cubicle door I answered that there was no lock in it.

So whose fault it is that said event happened to me? I mean I am not the one who has a duty to know that every lock in every cubicle in every government facility should work properly. Clearly, this is your fault and such an embarrassing event happened to me because instead of using the collected taxes for the improvement of the said facility by simply buying working locks for all of it you instead used it for some unknown reason that only God would know whatever it is.

Also if you look at the news and since our government right now is on high alert to eradicate drug use in the country more and more people are being incarcerated in prison, yes I am happy that these alleged drug users are in jail, but if you look at the number of people in cells in our government prison clearly you can see that hundreds of people would not fit in a prison cell that can only accommodate 20 people. If you can do math then isn’t 100 a lot more than 20? WHAT WOULD YOU THINK WOULD HAPPEN? They are like sardines in said prison facilities. These are people who , even though has a limited legal capacity for the crimes they allegedly committed, still has rights and you are depriving them of said right by placing them in a prison cell that already has hundreds of inmates in it even though it can only accommodate a few. As provided the police power of the state ensures that noxious things hazardous to the citizens of the Philippines should be either destroyed or improved. In this case, I highly suggest the improvement of said facility.

Another is why is it that street lights in some cities open up late? I mean it’s already 10 in the evening and for some unknown and weird reason the street lights aren’t even open yet? What is happening? Are you saving up on electricity? Don’t we pay enough taxes to keep the lights open in the streets? Are you trying to help criminals rob more people more easily? I don’t get it. There should be a proper time for these lights to open that should be strictly followed. Commuting is very common in the country and it is sometimes hard to commute and go to places when the bus stop or jeep stopovers don’t have lights in it every evening. It’s like a hotspot for criminals to gather to steal or rob people.  

How can you protect the people if you can’t even properly improve the facilities created for their protection?  Don’t even get me started on our Government hospitals because that is another topic all on its own. Clearly you know you F’ed up.

Anyway I wish I at least helped you with some of the things the city or the country needs.

In all seriousness, I have nothing against you, I simply and only want the best for the people.

They deserve the best and you are depriving them of that.

Look and use the facilities, the people need you, they voted for you if you're appointed then a person trusted you with power because he or she believes that you can make a change.

If you have a power to change things for the better then do it, don’t be greedy and give to the people what you promised to them,  the people have a right to be protected and to be taken care of by the government or state to which he or she lives.

I still believe in you. I KNOW you can be better and DO better. Don’t fail us. Thank you.

Sardines or prison? you choose...

look at how dirty the restrooms are.

where's the door of this cubicle??

The photos are not mine. just searched some pictures of the facilities found in the country.

An Open Love letter for the Girl of my dreams.

I’m Sorry…

Well…at least that is what I want to say after that ponderous love letter that I have posted earlier. Say what you want but I have no excuse for that other than I wrote such letter halfheartedly with great haste just to post something for our Monthsary regardless of its effects or meaning to you…

Anyway… I do see my mistakes from my past post and here is another one to mend the dilemma.

So here it is...

 "An Open Love letter for the Girl of my dreams."

Hi Babe,

                I always wondered you know? How I got so lucky. I mean did it inadvertently happen that a woman like you would love me back?  How did an amazing Woman like you return the love that I have always wanted from another person? I really never expected that a Woman like you would in a million years love someone like me. I mean I’m not perfect, I have plenty of flaws and I am far from what you call a good and kind hearted person, I am just an ordinary person living my life to survive this cruel world that we live in and I never expected anything in return so I try to go by and to act as if life is good even though there are plenty of challenges out there that are thrown at me.

                So imagine my surprise when you arrived in my life. Maybe I really just got lucky that we have a mutual friend and because of that friend I had a chance to meet you or maybe it was just fate. Who knows right? What is important to me anyway is the day that I met you for the first time ever. I still remember what you were wearing that time, how you fixed your hair, the way that you looked at me when we were at that French restaurant. The awkward first meeting that we had which is really quite unforgettable because I wouldn’t lie. It was a disaster.  

This is quite funny actually because now that we are together we are just laughing those unforgettable moments away. I always wondered you know why you gave me two more chances. I mean that first date with you was really a disaster, me with my weird questions and you looking at me as if I’m the weirdest person that you have ever met, but I didn’t care because the first time I saw and met you I fell head over heels in love with you.

How could I not with those beautiful eyes of yours, those captivating or mesmerizing eyes of yours that would catch any heart that it glanced into. They are as perfect as you are.

Thank you babe for coming into my life and making it a better place. Thank you for being there with me through any challenges that life would throw at me. Thank you for trusting me with your heart, especially because I know how fragile it is. Thank you for taking a chance with me and accepting my flaws. Thank you for opening your arms to me when I needed them the most. Thank you for being here and never giving up on us. Thank you for always being willing to talk things out and being understanding. Thank you for putting up with my random bursts of energy as well as the days I don’t want to get out of bed. Thank you for helping me make sense of all of the things I can’t understand.  

It’s amazing actually that you have become more than just my girlfriend and more than just any girl. You have become my best friend and most of all my shoulder to cry on. You are one of the few people I can really depend on and for that I am most Thankful. You truly are a blessing in my eyes and I am so thankful for you and all that you do. I could never ask for anyone better than you, nor would ever want to.

I promise babe to always keep your happiness and well-being in mind. I promise to always be there for you in a time of need. I promise you my love that I will do my best to always turn every frown of yours into a smile and every cry into a laugh. I promise I will never betray you and treasure your trust with all my heart. I promise to never treat you anything less than royalty. I promise to always remind you of how beautiful you are and how perfect you are each and everyday, and every chance that I get. I promise to flirt with you even after months and months of dating and I promise that I will always ask you out on dates and to make you feel special every day because that is what you deserve. I promise to always try my best and to never give up on you.

I promise to love you enough for the both of us when you’re at your worst. I know how challenging your life is right now, with your responsibilities at the hospital and your duties that you need to accomplish and I just want you to know how proud I am of you.  I promise to love you when you’re at your best. I promise to love you when nothing makes sense and to love you when everything does. I promise to protect you from the world when you’re vulnerable. I promise to be there for you when you can’t get out of bed.

I promise to love you even if your hair is a mess (sometimes after duty ) and even without make up.  I promise to love you when your hair is done and your face is full of fresh makeup. I promise to love you when you’re in sweatpants and a sweatshirt and when you’re in jeans and a nice shirt. I promise to love you even when I’m mad at you, when we’re fighting and when I’m upset with you. I promise to love you when we’re at a good and bad place in our relationship. I promise to love you through everything and anything the world throws at us. I promise all of this and so much more, to you, forever and always.  

Please don’t get jealous anymore of posts about my car because you know that you’re more important than an inanimate object. I love you more and more as time goes by and will always do.

Don’t be sad anymore… I’m always here for you…you know that right? Always…

Love,

Your Boyfriend (Nesty) 

NO ONE CARES.

NO ONE CARES

               I haven't written anything for a while now and most probably no one even noticed.
I know that not a lot of people would read my posts but who cares right? I'm still going to do it anyway because I want to.

So here we go.

   A lot has happened since my last post. I got a job, My Dad survived his heart operation, I finished my finals for the semester in law school, I cleaned up my room and my computer set up but pretty much to summarise all of it Shit still happens in my life and i do my best to survive against all the challenges thrown at me. I guess you could say i'm just happy to be alive and kicking right now.

 Anyway I recently had this realisation in life and it's not really nice. I got to a conclusion that no body really cares about you nor anyone but themselves. Yeah it's pretty straight forward and some might even say that it's pretty rude... i know...but after all the things that has happened there's really no other conclusion to get to. Yes you can say and others might also say that yours truly is no different but i think that that's just human nature.

 People survive, people eat, people love and they reproduce that's the meaning of life and to do just that people need to survive. I know a lot of people might hate robbers, criminals stealing money but they do those things just to survive ( here in my country anyway) you see the main element in those things? SURVIVE. It's the root of all things in life.

 I know some might say that I really am not the one you should be reading about those things but if you're still interested then read on... no one's stopping you and this post would be pretty quick since I'm not really a great writer nor you could say that I AM a writer. I'm just a boy in front of his computer typing his feelings away. typing his anxieties away.

So you might ask? what is the point of this post. Well you see it's about SURVIVAL. If you would read back to the first part of this post you might see that I stated that i recently got a job. It's not really a hard job per se it really just eats a lot of my time but the HR is pretty nice and the bosses are pretty cool also so I have nothing against those people. I would just like to come back to my realisation.

You see one day like last last week while commuting home and walking pretty far just to take a damn bus home I thought to myself while looking around me that there are plenty of people also trying to walk to the bus stop to go home and i though why is that? what is the point of all of these. Yes you could say it's about money, you could say that these people are working hard commuting back to their homes and will probably do all of it tomorrow all over again. But why?

 You see people need money, money is used to buy goods and goods are needed to survive, you pay your bills, you pay the bank, you pay for food and you also pay for anything if there is any that you want to buy just for recreational purposes. Money. It's important i know. It's so important that most of the people in law school that i know would want to become a lawyer because it pays a decent salary, those people would go through hell in law school, study for the damn bar exam, pass it and eventually become a lawyer where they could get a decent salary. ALL OF THAT HARD WORK just to get a decent salary. MONEY it's the brother of SURVIVAL.

You see. I'm not a bad person, it's just that so much shit has happened that i'm afraid it changed the way i look at life. I used to be full of life, I used to be full of aspirations, full of promise. But life has given me so much challenges that it's sometimes hard to keep up.

You need money. Money is used to survive. Survival is the main point of life it's the root of everything. Some would say that you only need love, the people that say that are incompetent fools who are to naive to see what life is at its core. Some would also choose religion but how could a person pray if there is no food in his stomach. You are the only one that could solve all of that, your problems, your insecurities, it's all on you.

So stop crying, stop saying that life does not give a shit, stop saying that life is unfair because all of those things that you are complaining about are probably true. But ask yourself this... how old am I? you see you're here reading about my post and i congratulate you for living up to this point and surviving but things are not over yet and you need to do more and i know you can.

forget about your family, your parent's, your loved ones, your friends they're all the same as you just trying to survive in this fucked up world. If you're going to do something. Go do it. stop complaining, I know how you feel, I work, I go to law school and I'm trying to survive also.

As they say misery loves company. I'm here same as you. Life is rude, it's hard and you're probably sick of it. But hey I'm here and i'm feeling the same way. Let's survive together and let's move on with our lives.

We can do it.

I know we can.

Don't give up.

Ready Player One Movie Review. SPIELBERG IS BACK!!!

SPIELBERG IS BACK !!

   I had a very good experience and very much enjoyed the whole time watching the Movie Ready Player One. As the movie was being made the producers and the makers even Spielberg Himself promised that such a movie was a chance for the acclaimed director to return to his original roots and style as a Filmmaker and might i say that he did indeed Deliver such promise. Right of the bat I was immersed while watching the movie because of how it was made from the pacing of the story to the style that it was delivered.

The film was based on a bestselling novel by Ernest Cline while the script was penned by Cline and Zak Penn. The story is Based on Columbus, Ohio 30 years into the future where the world is overwhelmed by climate change and overpopulation a typical problem that the world is now already facing, anyway such future is actually not really farfetched since the invention of the VR where like in the movie people through the OASIS a Virtual World could escape their real world problems that they are facing, but to be honest in my opinion the real setting of the movie is not the real world itself but the OASIS. Based on the movie they do show the connection of both worlds to each other on how it affects the other one and how important it is for somebody to find the Easter egg a quest given to the players of the OASIS where whoever finds it will have the total control of the virtual world itself.

The film did deliver on the positive and negative effects of living in the Virtual world. In regards to the style of the movie they did aim and achieve a realistic effect for the OASIS but in a way that it still embraces the Video game and rather cartoonish style designs that they intended to do. Basically when the movie changes it setting between the real world and the OASIS i really had no problem towards it since they paced it properly and it is very clear when the two setting changes since the style of the two worlds are really quite different. 

In regards to its Nostalgic elements, there is A LOT IN HERE and by a lot i mean A LOT. Based on the movie Wreck it Ralph there is something fun and enjoyable that gives you a happy feeling when you see elements from classic films or in here video games. I did feel like I was a child again when they showed a big set Piece on the movie where the characters had to join and win a race, From revealing the DeLorean itself from "Back to the Future" , a Dinosaur from the Jurassic park and even King Kong Himself there are a lot of elements in here coming from not just classic movies but also present ones.

There are also plenty of  the past and present Video Game references and Easter eggs in the movie that as I watched it i felt younger and younger as i get immersed on the story while it advances. 

There's an all you can eat Nostalgia in the movie. It's Like a buffet and I'm sure that if you watched it plenty of times you could see more references and Easter eggs in it. I mean you could not find all of those in just one sitting of the film.

Although Spielberg did openly borrow from old movies in regards to Raiders of the Lost ark and Star Wars which by the way was created by Spielberg and George Lucas because of their love for pop culture they did create something amazing out of it. I really did not get disappointed on how their movies were delivered. It's actually quite Amazing.

It was really a Magical moment for me like the time where i first saw those Dinosaurs from the first time watching Jurassic Park. It gave me that feeling of joy and adventure again on a movie that I crave so much that I wish that there was more of it. In it's worst the film amounts to a game of spot the reference or eater egg and at its best it gives you this amazement of unexplainable feeling of joy where you just want to get stuck in that moment forever that sugar rush feeling which provides thrill and excitement to the viewer at the same time.

Spielberg himself was happy to talk about the movie Ready Player One as his return to the "from the audience, for the audience " style of Filmmaking and suggested that he has more than pure entertainment in mind on the movie's production.  It did give a message on how the virtual world or the internet itself could isolate somebody from the real world and distract them from their real problems. On Wade's, the main protagonist, opening moment where you are shown how the world was rundown and how the world and each and every person were living their own fantasies.

They also did show how the main Character embodies that type of person who because of the OASIS and because of his isolation from the real world would have a hard time talking to girls and how he confronts the main Villain where we are meant to cheer for him when he declares that " A fan boy knows a hater".

Mark Rylance in here delivered the best performance in the movie playing as the most powerful inventor of the OASIS Halliday where he is portrayed as a Smart and awkward but rather weird figure which is really quite the opposite of how such a person like himself would live if it was 2018.

In short..I HAD an AMAZING TIME watching the movie and as I left the theater I only wished that there was more of it that such movie is the ultimate expression of nostalgia with all of its virtues in it.

If you are trying to have fun while watching a movie then Ready Player One is the Movie for you.

As Spielberg say it is a movie "From the audience, For the Audience"

Enjoy watching it..I sure did.

I give it a 10 out of 10.

P.S. The Gundam Scene was freaking awesome!!

Best Feel Good Movies to watch if your having a bad day.

Best Feel Good Movies to watch if your having a bad day.

We've all been there you know those days where you've had a really bad day, a bad week, a bad everything actually and on those days really you don't want to do anything that will further piss you off and make things worse. So you go home turn on your television and try to pick yourself up or make your mood better by watching shows that would make you rather smile or happy. It's a sure way to lessen the Bad that is Happening in your life and brighten things up a bit.

Yes there's nothing wrong with watching amazing films like inception , the Godfather or Scarface but if you feel like crap those films are probably not the ones you should be watching to cheer yourself up. Sometimes you just need to watch a movie where it can lift your spirit or give you a boost of joy to forget about your problems even for a small amount of time. Sometimes you need to watch those kind of movies.

With that in mind I've happily compiled a few list of movies that comes up in my mind to cheer you up. These are feel Good and Amazing movies to put you in a better mood that carries uplifting messages and light stories that will surely put a smile on your face after watching them.

So let's Begin...

1. BIG FISH

A Fantastic Tale Full of Great and Colorful Characters it tells the unbelievable story of Ed Bloom played by Ewan McGregor. From making Friends with a Giant, Having told and seen the future on how he will die and how he led an amazing life this movie which is by the way an amazing feel good film for the whole family is one of those films that will probably lighten your mood and give you a fuzzy feeling of joy inside after watching it.

2. Groundhog Day

Have you ever wished that you could have done something differently before and change your decisions or actions? Well Groundhog Day is that kind of movie. It's the Ultimate feel good classic. Featuring Bill Murray who stars as a grumpy news reporter who is stuck on living the same day over and over. Giving numerous and different versions of the same day and how he finally realizes how beautiful life is and how he could turn things around. This is an amazing film to show you how important one day is and how you could do so much in such a short time. Good for those times where you feel down and just need to go to your room, relax while watching a movie and eating a tub of popcorn.

3. Pursuit of Happyness

Will Smith in this Movie was nominated for an Oscar and a Golden globe for his Amazing Performance about a Father struggling with homelessness while trying to raise a son. This is also Jaden Smith's first debut movie and this movie is actually based on a true story about how a man has determined and worked hard to pave a better life for him and his son. P.S. Happyness is Intentionally misspelled here. :)

4. Slumdog Millionaire

A movie about a Mumbai teen who goes to the Indian Version of Who Wants To Become A Millionaire? to find his lost love. Starring Dev Patel he then has to explain how a boy from the slums who came from nothing could win after being arrested for cheating and continue to search for his love. This is the kind of film that will surely make you happy, give you an amazing lesson in life and help you realize how content you should be in your life and how lucky you are.

5. Shawshank Redemption

I did save the best for last. Have you ever watched a movie where after watching it feels like your life just became better? Well this is that kind of movie. One of the Highest rated movies of all time whenever I talk about this movie with my friends I do not even refer to it by title, Because it is "THE MOVIE". Prepare to be moved by such an amazing film where the story encompasses hardships, Hopes, Dreams and where it moves you after you watch it. Such a Simple film that I wouldn't want to spoil any of it for you but I suggest that you set aside two hours of your life and watch this movie after having A BAD DAY and it surely will pick you right up. This is perhaps my most favorite movie of all time. 

So that's it! those are five movies that you could start with if you're having a bad day.

Enjoy! :)

SHhh..It is Going to be ok...

SHhh..It is Going to be ok...

 When you're young everything is fun and games. Everything is simple because you do not have to think about anything that would stress you out. Nothing has consequences , you are safe from harm, the only problems that you have is going to school, sleeping early and you're relationship with other kids who you want to get to know and play with. Waking up and watching television on an early Saturday, going to church every Sundays and an endless and sometimes boring loads of homework.

  You see when you're young you want to grow up fast, you want to earn money, buy every toy that you want and sleep as late as possible. It's ironic really that nobody tells you as a child that "growing up" means changing all of that. That growing up shall pull you down from your clouds of imagination, it shall plant your feet on the ground and you lose everything , even that "wide eyed smile" that you have every day of your childhood.

The definition of Growing up according to the Dictionary is that it is when you begin to exist and you develop into an adult. It doesn't say really say that it is when you lose yourself and become someone that you do not know every time you look into the mirror. You see when you grow up the fun and games it begins to vanish and every action and choices that you do begins to have consequences in them. It is when stress, anxiety or even loneliness starts, it starts to happen because you're trying to build up something that you could show to other people, something you could be proud of. Something that says I'm here , I exist and I'm not a child anymore.

 People start to expect something from you, you in return do your best to provide that expectation. To give positive results and a failure to do so will be a big blow to you , to your work, your ego or anything that you are trying to build, even you're career. 

 But growing also gives you an important lesson, even though you're are expected to do great things which is hard, even though you fail at a lot of things, you learn from all of it. When i was a child i learned an important lesson which i still use to this day, I was walking along the street from school and saw that there is a person who was selling ice cream across the street and me being an avid fan of ice cream wanted some and in my excitement crossed the road without looking at both sides before crossing it, as i was midway at the street a car suddenly passes in front of me a few inches away from my face unfortunately i did not come out of it unscathed seeing that my toe was rolled over by the wheels of the car and in my experience from that day it really hurts like hell. From that day onward, before i cross the street i look both ways because never would i want to feel my toes to be rolled over by another car again. EVER.  You see you learn from you're mistakes and like i was from that day, i wouldn't be alive today if it weren't for those failed choices that i have made during the time when i was young.

 Each and every one of us are survivors, we are survivors in a way that we survive the day that are gifted to us. We learn from our mistakes, we grow up, we grow old and we add value to the lives of not just of ourselves but other people too. 

One could say that children are just looking for several ways on how to kill themselves but i beg to differ. Children are smart and they become smart by doing or experiencing ways on how they could hurt themselves. BY hurting themselves by feeling pain they eventually, WE eventually learn from that pain and become a better and smarter person than we were before. That is what's amazing on being a human being, a child or even a grown up. We do not stop learning, we experience plenty of stuff that we could add to our arsenal of experience and we use that to our advantage. 

However , this exploratory phase of us ends, not because we run out of ideas but because we start to see that there is too much of things out there and it is impossible for you to feel everything so as a grown up you start to focus on what you're good at, you begin by again making a career on what you think is your best line of work and we use that knowledge to advance ourselves and show to other people that we can have the potential to be the best. Everything starts to be a competition of skill.

We start to develop, our brain works out the complexities of the world and we adopt the rules provided to us and granted us by adults who also were once children creating rules from experiences that they also made. Life, growing up, growing old, it's a cycle. 

We begin to practice several principles that emerges in our minds. Principles that helps us to avoid pain. We ourselves create rules for ourselves and as the cycle start we start to pursue our own version of pleasure and avoid problems that could cause pain and problems. We begin to negotiate our own desires with the desires of people around you and we play by the rules of the society and the authorities that implement the said rules.

Being a child is feeling pleasure. But being a Grown is about the experiences we learned from being a child, it is a road to which we take where we learn principles and we get pleasure from being rewarded by following those principles and earning something from it.

We begin our lives as a person who knows nothing ,a blank slate and we leave it with our minds full of the knowledge that we have learned from the road that we have taken from being a child itself.

Life is a road to which we make mistakes and those mistakes makes us stronger and better.

So don't be afraid of growing up. Instead learn from it. Become a better person, become someone who you aspire to be.

So don't be afraid, do whatever it is you want to do, create mistakes but be sure to learn from it.

Enjoy life. Grow up. Hakuna Matata ;)