How to get over that monster you call your EX?

A friend of mine recently has gone through a devastating break-up. Though I'm happy for him because his so called ex is quite of a monstrous being (literally not metaphorically). I still am quite disappointed to see a close friend of mine to be so down in the mud that he can't even channel the energy to reach out to other people and ask for their advice to make him feel better. I know this is our first post. But seeing the effects of this break up towards my friend it seems clear that he needs a helping hand on how he could move on and go back out there in the real world where real problems not like this one should be settled.

Okay..now break ups. What is with break ups that make people act like total imbeciles after it has happened? The pain, the feeling of being alone, that gut wrenching love songs that you used to love now a symbol of your hate towards humanity because of a simple event of your heart being destroyed to thousand pieces. I know it's not easy, it never is, I know because I have been there my heart has been broken plenty of times now that when i get rejected by someone it doesn't really affect me anymore. setting my past experiences aside. Can people really move on after somebody has totally destroyed their heart? 

The answer is plain and easy...Yes...Yes you can.

There are plenty of things and stuff that a person can do to be able to move on from a devastating breakup. From family, friends, work mates, class mates, any damn mates, even first mates. There are plenty of people out there for you that could help you move on and get back on your damn horse. GO watch movies, comedies, series, anime, what ever floats your boat, listen to damn music, go to different places, there is a world out there beyond your ex and it's waiting for you to come out of your shell and rejoin it. Go back to humanity and if you can't here are some simple and easy tips that COULD help you or assist you to a road of peace and happiness again:

1. DO NOT CONTACT YOUR EX...EVER.

    I'm not going to say that it's easy because I know it's really hard to not contact that person again. I mean you both have been together for plenty of years, months, days and it's hard to accept the fact that the person you used to trust and love is out of your life forever (YES FOREVER MWAHAHA) again it's not easy but you have to do it. not for the people around you, not for your ex, not for your country, you need to do this for you, for yourself. Contacting your ex will not be a smart move, it's actually quite idiotic, the person chose to get out of your life for reasons you two will only know. that person made his or her choice and you cannot change that. Stop contacting that person, move on with your life, there are plenty of others out there waiting for you, for your presence, for you to be happy again. So stop using that phone, put it down and go watch Netflix or whatever makes you happy.

2. FELL THAT PAIN? NOW HUG IT, CHERISH IT..THEN THROW IT AWAY!

    Every once in a while every person needs to feel sadness. It's inevitable. Pain and sadness go side by side and sometimes you just have to hug it and accept it. Life is not easy, it's actually quite tedious, repetitive and really hard. But on the other side of sadness of pain, there is happiness. It's like a damn tunnel where darkness will always be waiting for you but if you just keep on going towards that tunnel you will eventually reach the other side and feel the light all over you again. Bit do not forget what you have learned at the tunnel, do not forget about the pain, it will always be there and with its knowledge comes a better view on how to avoid it the next time.

3. FIND YOURSELF.

   Go out on an adventure, go watch a movie alone, meet new people, Eat outside on your own and order the best thing in the menu. For a person to move on from a disastrous break-up you first need to accept yourself, to find yourself, to learn who you really are inside and out. Go do things that will make you happy, go experiment and find out what your quirks are. Go out there and experience life as you alone. You are amazing and you need to know that, you can be fun, you can be happy, you can live on your own. You just need to find out first who that person really is in the first place.

4. HAVE FUN.

   EASY. go out there. have fun. Go drink with friends. Ask for their advice. Go out with your family. Enjoy your time with them. Be happy with other people beyond your ex. Be happy on what you currently have. Have fun in life and time will come when you will know that you don't need to be in a relationship to do all the things that you and your ex does to have fun. You can have fun on your own. You can be happy. Life is fun but living is better. Have fun living.

5. CONCENTRATE AND MEDITATE.

   Each and every one of us has goals to reach. We want to become somebody someday and this break up might help you with that. It has been scientifically proven that emotional people are more adept to succeed because of their concentration towards their goals. So go out there and do what you must do to succeed. Go read, go learn become that awesome person that you always wanted to be. No body is going to stop you but yourself. So stop moping around, get back on your horse and move forward in life. The best revenge is success. Show them, show your ex who you really are. Channel that emotion and turn it into gold. YOU DESERVE IT.

Life is hard. It's not always going to be happy. sometimes you just have to move on and get over whatever it is that is troubling you. Because once you overcome that challenge, once you embrace it and once you show to it that you can do it. Limitless possibilities will be available to you.

So get over that person, you deserve better, you deserve the BEST. you are amazing you just have to show it and prove it. Because we know that you can.

P.S.

to my friend if you are reading this..Get over her...she's a lil' bitch. (sorry for the word)